How do we approach it so it doesn’t become a nightmare?
How do we make the most of it so it can help us reconnect as a family?
How do we take it seriously- enough but not too much to ensure it doesn’t completely disrupt our adult life to avoid burn-out?
Some tips:
1. Make a daily schedule
The more it is visual and co-decided by the child, the more it will empower them to feel responsible in applying it. They will more take ownership on what has been done and what is left.
2. Preferably do school work in the morning
Wake up your child at the same time school starts. A child’s cognitive capacities function better in the morning- he will be concentrated and work better. Then, playtime and relaxation comes as a reward well-earned. Avoid using too many e-resources to keep it a dynamic shared learning moment.
3. Establish a new ritual
Ensure you can transform the learning into a fun and shared moment in family and that it shows you are happy to contribute. Doing a 10-minute activity to recap the learning of the at the end of the day on a slate can be fun and experimental.
4. No nap time doesn’t mean no calm time
Modelling the idea to pause during the day is important. A lot of parents think that their child is too old to nap and therefore they can do whatever they want. Whether they are lying down on their bed reading or listening to music, it is key for them to disconnect and learn to be by themselves. It is called calm time and can apply to everyone in the family. Boredom is welcomed. Silence is gold. It also allows parents to have a break and ensure they get a ‘blank space’.
Written by:
Saveria Cristofari
Counsellor